Children have difficulty sharing, especially young children. This is anormal part ofthe development process. This is because selfishness comes beforesharing in child development. The power to possess is anatural part of thechild’s growing awareness. In fact, “mine” is one of theearliest words to comeout of a toddler’s mouth. Although it won’t happen quickly, there are steps youcan take to help the children learn to share and develop compassion andgenerosity.

　　Share with your child. In your own interactions with your child,consciously demonstrate and describe sharing. For example, at snack time, say,“Let’s sharethis piece of fruit. Here’s a slice for you and here’s one forme.”

　　Model sharing in your behaviour with others. At home, look foropportunities to share things with your partner; or, when you and your sisterare together, make it a point to do some sharing, describing it as you do so.Children are great observers and imitators!

　　Recognize and praise sharing behaviour whenever you see it. Or, as I oftensay, “Catch the children being good.” A simple, “Oh, I like the way you'regiving your cousin a turn,” will probably make both children eager to get thatpositive attention from their mother and auntie.

　　中文翻译：

　　孩子都有分享障碍，尤其是小孩子。这是成长过程中的一个正常阶段这是因为在孩子的成长过程中，自私先于共享占有的力量是孩子意识当中自然地一部分。事实上，“我的“是孩子会说的最早的几个词汇之一。虽然需要一点时间，但是有几个步骤可以帮助孩子学习分享,同情，和慷慨。

　　首先，和你的孩子一起分享。在你和孩子互动的时候，有意识的演示和描述“分享”这一概念。比如，当吃零食的时候，就说：“让我们分享这块水果”，这块是你的，这块是我的。”

　　用和别人交往时候的分享做模范。在家里的时候，找机会和你的伴侣分享，或者，当你和你的姐妹在一起的时候，找机会来分享点什么，并且在这么做的时候说出来。孩子是很好的观察者和模仿者!

　　善于发现并表扬分享的行为，不论你什么时候看到。或者，就像我经常说的，“抓住孩子好的时候。”一句简单的“啊我喜欢你给你的表妹一个机会，”也许会让两个孩子都希望能得到妈妈和姨姨的积极关注。